There is a deeply rooted myth in North American culture that shapes our behavior.
The myth: Success in America is an individual enterprise. This myth celebrates our rugged individualism as the key element in becoming a self-made man or woman. We believe that everyone succeeds or fails on the basis of individual efforts and abilities but this just isn't so. Revering this go-it-alone mentality, frontier spirit and lone wolf perspective actually holds us back from achieving the success we seek.
Simply put, success is not only determined by what you know and can do but also by whom you know. Success is powered by three things: know-how, a network of contacts and your reputation. That's it. That's the secret.
The formula for success = your human capital (what you know) times your social capital (who you know) times your reputation (who trusts you).
1. Your human capital is what you know and can do. That includes your life experiences/accomplishments, signature talents, education, and how you have applied your skills and abilities in the workplace. Self knowledge is the most critical knowledge: you must know how "good you are at the work you have chosen to do."
2. Your social capital is who you know and who knows you. You don't achieve success by working alone (unless you are a technical wonder who discovers something that has great application). Building your social capital is not about sitting alone in front of your computer trying to come up with a winning formula on your own. No one I know who is successful does it that way. Successful people may have started out going it alone, but as soon as they possibly could, they began to leverage their own and other people's ideas, experiences and relationships.
Effective leaders focus on relationships not structures. They know that an organization is a community of individuals looking to co-create, not a collection of human resources waiting to deliver.
In today's environment of changing technology and increased complexity, knowledge is power and sharing it can build even more capability for an organization. The potential is in the willingness to change the leadership behaviors necessary to access the collective knowledge. The big challenge is to mine the tacit knowledge (in the heads of people where true knowledge resides) through providing an access method. The idea behind collaboration is that sharing knowledge leads to the co-creation of new actionable knowledge that leads solution development.
The key issue is getting people to think of themselves as part of a larger, collaborative community (to work outside their functional specialty). However, changing people's and organizations' behavior doesn't come easily, especially if they've been used to working independently. Yet, when people are passionate about something, they find a way to create a dialogue that can lead to new knowledge and new possibilities.
3. Your reputation is who trusts you. Leadership ethics begins with you and is based on your assumptions/beliefs, values and guiding principles that drive your behavior.
The ancient Greeks taught that all conversation involved three ingredients: Ethos, or the character of the speaker; Pathos, connecting with the emotions; and Logos. The logos discussed by the Greeks refers to the factual content of a message, the words used.
To hear your message, people first need to positively connect with you emotionally before they are ready, willing and able to listen to what you have to say.
Relationships between people or institutions are based on exchange in which all parties have a mutual understanding of their rights and obligations. Relations between members of an immediate family or between spouses are based on obligations such as obedience or respect. Relations can be forged through gifts or personal favors and bring with them obligations and expectations. For every action, something is expected in return.
Those who do favors are highly esteemed; they are recognized as people who have respect for those around them. Every previous or current situation produces expectations for future behavior on the part of the giver and gift recipient.
Do you follow the Law of Reciprocity in business...that flows from the divine Law of Love?