It will according to experts. Every year about this time, millions of New Year’s resolutions are made.
People are going to lose weight, get in shape, learn a language or some other skill, spend more time relaxing, eat better, spend more time with their family, travel more, and in general improve their lives.
“And,” Doug Sundheim, executive coach and co-author of the book 25 Best Time Management Tools and Techniques, “as well-intentioned as these resolutions are, 30-60 days from now most of them will have fallen by the wayside.”
The reasons? Those making the resolution did a poor job of managing their time, ending up not being able to carry out any of their New Year’s Resolution effectively, ultimately short-changing themselves and their families, friends, and co-workers.
1. What are the main reasons why most people's new year
resolutions fail, and what can they do to insure success?
a. People have competing commitments driven by deeply protected
and differing assumptions and beliefs. These competing commitments
pull them in opposite directions and cause them to spend a great
deal of energy attempting to satisfy each.
Examples: I am going to lose 20lbs but I love to eat and drink...or...
I am going to change careers/start a new business but I really like
the security of the paycheck I get from the job I tolerate today.
b. Most people don't respect their strong immunity to change and,
therefore, don't develop the support systems necessary to overcome
this powerful and dynamic equilibrium to stay the same. However,
there is untapped energy to be found if we can become less
embedded in our immune system that protects us from change.
c. They don't give their brain enough time and energy to relearn
deeply ingrained habits by developing and following a goal-achieving
plan through personal determination, practice, repetition and the
support of others.
2. Why do most people have to reach a crisis point before they
realize it's time for a change?
Most people feel they need a change but have a difficult time
articulating/envisioning what that change looks like and how to plan
to make it real. Developing the ability to respond to unpredictable
change is very hard for mo st people. Some people are afraid to
develop approaches to move from the more comfortable status quo.
Learning to take risks by starting with small projects (where the impact of failure is not excessive) is a good approach to overcome this lack of initiative.
Many need more than self-help books to move forward.
When we talk to others, in a safe environment, about the impending
change, we reach clarity on what we must do to move forward.
Building one's capability to accept and effectively handle change
can release energy spent in worry and transform it into focused
action. For more information, go to:
http://coachedtosuccess.com/CoachingTip/self_learning/index.html
If you want to increase the success rate of your New Year’s Resolutions:
1. Prioritize what you want to accomplish. It’s impossible to accomplish everything. If your list is too long you won’t accomplish any of it. Pick your top 1-3 goals and focus on those. Not only will those have a better chance of getting done, but once you’re on your way to accomplishing them, you can then move on to other goals on your list.
2. Reduce information overload. When you have too much information coming in, your brain can’t handle it. You end up accomplishing little and wasting time managing it all. The antidote is to unsubscribe, toss out, pare down, and be very selective about the information you do allow to reach you.
3. Learn to say no. Too many people say yes to everyone and end up with little or no time left to do what’s important to them. If you say no, you’re telling yourself and others what’s important to you. Not so oddly, that’s what you’ll end up getting done and getting done well.
It is only when you have a clear sense of your personal purpose will you learn which things to say 'No' to; things that are no longer a priority.
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