More than likely, you live with a motivated man who wants more romantic closeness but who is holding back or frustrated. Which means you often hold the key to the quality of romance.
If you've been disappointed with your romantic relationship and have pushed and prodded to no effect, you've probably realized that nagging doesn't work. So how do you start? Encourage him.
One man was blunt: "Encourage me and affirm my efforts, and I'll run through a brick wall to please you. But don't just assume that I know you're pleased. I'm way outside my comfort zone. I'm willing to be a fool for you, but just tell me that I did good. And give me sex. That helps too."
Many men view taking romantic initiative as a huge risk--a risk of being humiliated or feeling inadequate. So prove to your man that it's not a risk! When he makes an effort, it's your responsibility--and your joy--to demonstrate that it was worth it.
Keep it fresh---give him something new to pursue. Go hiking with him. Play golf with him. Give him space when he needs it, and intimate attention when he needs that. Make yourself the kind of friend and lover he constantly wants to pursue.
So next time he suggests something, don't tell him you really need to vacuum the house. Give him his version of a candlelight dinner, and enjoy your romantic time together!
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