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03/17/2012

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I'm a woman in my late 20 s, married for 5 years and I make more money than my huansbd, he makes about 30% of what I make. We split the bills equally based on income, so he pays about 30% of our bills and I pay the remainder I don't have a problem with this setup, I think it's more equal. However, where we disagree is house chores. I work 40 hours a week, sometimes longer depending on my job requirements, and he only works about 20 hours a week. I feel that the chores should also be split equally based on time. I've struggled for a few years now, especially since we bought a house a couple of years ago, to get him to do any house chores .he sleeps in most days and doesn't do any house chores. Anytime I bring them up, it turns into a fight b/c he gets very defensive. He grew up with a stay at home mom who did EVERYTHING around the house and cooked everyday! I think he has problems recognizing that we're not the traditional kind of relationship. I'm at the point we're I'm just forgetting about him doing any chores, but I'm starting to resent him because of this situation and I don't know what to do. Besides the chores we have a good relationship. But, I just don't feel like he appreciates all that I do in this relationship if it weren't for my income we couldn't afford our house and a lot of things we do, like vacations, and not to mention 1,000 s of dollars in vet bills that I've paid for. Anytime anything comes up, I'm the one to pay for it. Yet he can't help keep the house tidy. I'm starting to come to my whit's end and I'm not sure what to do any advice would be good!

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