If you haven’t already done so, be sure to create a profile of your important professional and social contacts. In it, note things of significance about the people you meet: their source of expertise, where they live, their profession, personal interests, affiliated organizations, etc.
If you hate “networking,” then stop networking and begin to share knowledge. Knowledge is power and sharing it can build even more capability for the person sharing and the organization.
Executives recognize that there is an 'invisible' structure of personal and business networks within their company that define the true influences and interdependencies. They also know how to access and leverage those resources. Effective career women are strategic in the way they share knowledge. They use their knowledge to earn trust and build their reputation within the company.
When done correctly, social networking is the equivalent of being an exceptional host. Great networkers interact with sincerity and look for ways to make others feel comfortable in communicating joint interests. If you learn of a way to be helpful during the interaction, then by all means offer and follow up immediately. Examples include introducing them to someone who shares a mutual interest, sending them an article, or referring a contact.
Networking is a mutually beneficial relationship, not an opportunity to see what you can gain. If you find these social situations uncomfortable, then by all means learn from someone who is comfortable in sharing knowledge. Watch and listen to the ways they interact with their social networks.